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How Are You Really Feeling?

Just asking someone how they are really feeling could save a life.

It's OK to talk about mental health

Men with top hats hiding clouds and bandages under their hats with text: we talk about physical health because we can see it. It's ok to talk about mental health even if you can't see it

We're trying to reduce the stigma of Mental Health, and we all need to be braver in talking about it, and asking how our friends and family are. Let's not just accept OK or FINE as answers. Take the time to ask them again how they are REALLY feeling, and let's take the time to listen to what they have to say. Sometimes someone who is feeling upset might not admit it to you the first time, so ask them again if you suspect something is wrong.

We've produced a helpful how are you really feeling leaflet with some tips on how to start a conversation if you're feeling awkward about it. If the person does open up to you, and says they're not ok - then the leaflet has some helpful tips for them to use.

How to get help if you need it

If someone you know needs help urgently the best thing to do is persuade them to call their GP. 

Stay Safe website can help you look after someone who says they feel suicidal, or help you if you have thoughts of suicide. You can complete a safety plan, or get step by step help on how to reassure someone in an emergency situaton. 

If someone needs someone to talk to at any time of day or night Samaritans will listen 24/7 365 days a year. They can be called for free from a landline or mobile on 116 123.

CALM - the Campaign Against Living Miserably has lots of information and advice on how to help a friend in need. Or if you need help yourself you can call the helpline 5pm to midnight 365 days a year for free on 0800 58 58 58.

If you see the ASIST logo anywhere, there will be somebody ready, willing and able to support you by providing suicide first aid. 

Under 35? call the Papyrus HopeLine on 0800 0684141 or text 07786 209697. They are contactable 10am-10pm weekdays, 2pm-10pm weekends and 2pm-5pm on bank holidays.

In a non-crisis situation you can refer yourself and get support online from Outlook South West.

For healthy lifestyle advice that can improve your emotional wellbeing, you can get help from Healthy Cornwall by calling 01209 615600 9am-5pm Monday to Friday.

Or if you're a young person in Cornwall you can find information on the Mind Your Way website.

The Mental Health Foundation has 10 top tips for looking after your mental health.

  • Keep in touch
  • Keep active
  • Do something you enjoy
  • Talk about your feelings
  • Take a break
  • Avoid alcohol
  • Care for others
  • Eat well
  • Accept who you are
  • Ask for help

Help if you've experienced something traumatic

There are times in our lives when we might see or experience something that is upsetting, frightening, stressful and it might be more upsetting than we first realise. You may see someone take their own life or witness a bad accident or assualt. If you need some help to cope, or want to help someone else who might be struggling you can find support on the NHS choices website and on the Royal College of Psychiatrists website.

Working in partnership

The idea for this campaign came from the Cornwall Towards Zero Suicide collaborative conferences held over 2016 and 2017 which is a multi-agency approach funded by the Duchy Charity.

Request a pack

If you'd like to display the leaflets in your workplace, community space or local shop you can email to request leaflets and posters. 

We'd love to hear from you

If you have used our leaflet and it helped you to help someone, we'd really love it if you could tell us by emailing